Question?

[xcxmotionless]

I was  having a really terrible day a couple days ago (not going into detail), and I was talking to my boyfriend about how I kind of wanted to self-harm. I haven't done it in over 5 months, and I made it clear that I wasn't going to actually do anything, I was just thinking about it. My boyfriend freaked out, saying that if I did he would break up with me and that he would cut himself worse if I did. I was just wondering, what are some of your opinions on this situation?

[NyxJinx]

Well, since you posted this on 17th, what I'm about to say is probably not gonna matter.

Terrible days are just that terrible days. They are just bad memories. Just try forget it, I know it's easier said than done but…

 

DON'T BREAK THAT RECORD!!! That's really impressive, I used to not be able to go 2 days without cutting.

 

Wait. "cut himself worse if I did"? In this relationship, he gets to cut but you don't? That's not fair, and it sounds like a threat (I mean by definition it is but…) and he's using the emotional strings you have attached to him to control you, but…here's where I'm lost morally speaking, he's threating you to keep you from hurting yourself and I can't tell if he meant that to appear selfless or selfish. Maybe selfish with the emotional control he has over you as a boyfriend and selfless with the threat, willing to risk the stability of the/entire relationship to convince you to not hurt yourself.

 

Talk about it? Maybe set some guidelines? Or ask for a little more leash? It's not fair, so, change the rules a little, bend 'em but don't break 'em. Good luck.