The problem with girls.

[Painted_Whore♥~ 93]

Let us start with the main factor.

Looks: Most girls have insecurities, whether they vocalize it or not. They do. But most girls forgot one thing. True beauty. True beauty isn't what you find in the magazines. It's not the celebrities you look up to. And it surely isn't those site models. You look at these people and think,"Man, they are so gorgeous, can I look like them." Stop. Just stop right there. I shall give you an insiders look into these women. Do you realize that most of this girls drown themselves in makeup AND use the hell out of photoshop and other editing sites? Half of these women don't even look like that. So please explain to me why do you want to look like a woman that has ten pounds of base on? Society has made women insecure because they portray as one thing as true beauty. Skinny, covered in makeup, girls. What happened to looking like Marilyn Monroe? Back in her time they had pills to make you GAIN weight to look like her. Now all these girls just starve themselves to look like they haven't eaten in weeks. I will give a personal experience. I got called fat. Now you see, I am 5'4, weighing between 120-130. And I wear a size 5 in pants. Sometimes 3 depending on material. Clearly, I am not overweight, but since I do not look like those women that you can practically see their rib cage I'm fat. That's saddening. Honestly, girls? You don't need to lose weight for other people. Do it for yourself. If you want to lose some do it the healthy way. Eat right, drink tons of water and exercise. Most of those famous girls or even regular girl lose weight so fast is from being bulimic. Which is NOT a healthy way to lose weight. It destroys your body. Now the message I'm trying to get across is, be true to yourself. Take off all that makeup and realize you don't need it. We have true beauty and even if someone people can't realize your true beauty now, I promise you someone will. And stop paying too much attention to that scale. I promise you, you are fine the way you are. But If you want to achieve a goal, do it the right way, not the easy way. So some point today, I will do something for you, I will take a picture of myself with NO makeup, not even base. 100% natural. My hair not perfect. You can see all my "flaws" in the open. I don't have perfect skin. I have blemishes. I will post it in my gallery. If you want to see it go for it, if not then don't. But I'm doing this to show you all, we don't need out hair to be perfect or makeup on to show others we are beautiful. Just stay true to yourself.

 

Second.

Personality: Girls all have different personalities, obviously. But all girls tend to have things in common. We are all mastermind bitches. It's true but if you want to disagree then go for it. But put yourself in a situation. Think of a time you got extremely mad at someone. Now tell me, did you think of ways you can get them back? Even if you didn't, I bet it popped in your mind. Even if you waved it away. Now thing of a time you got in a fight with a chick friend. Do you physically fight? Or did you just fight by tearing down each other's ego? Girls fighting is like WWIII coming into play. But we most of us don't go physical we go mentally. It's just our instinct. But most of us don't get that far. Do you girls realize that some of us use this in a relationship.(Most guys will agree here, some girls won't) Guys: Have you noticed that when you talk to a girl and she develop feelings for you and let's say, you are in a relationship. Said girl pulls the guilt trip. "I wish someone would care about me." "Your girlfriend is so lucky." "I have no one." And you are left, feeling like shit because you know what will make them happy but you are with someone else? Girls work around the mind. And most of them play mind games. But why? Why do we? I've notice I've done this. And I'm sure some of you girls have realize this as well. But once you grow up you need to realize, guys don't like games. And drama will only just stress yourself out more. It gets to the point that you don't care anymore. Most of us need to realize that it's time to grow up and realize we need to be straight forward about things and if we get into a spat with a friend, be the mature one and apologize if it doesn't work out from there, walk away and deal with your life.

 

And lastly Three.

 

Relationships:

Now girls, you know what quickly ends relationships? OVER jealousy. Guys do the same but I find the problem mostly in girls. I understand that you get mad because someone of the opposite sex is talking to your relationship partner. But why do you get so worked up over it? It makes people feel like you have no trust in them. I shall give you an example my best friend used for me when I used to be over jealous. Let's say you are walking through the mall. And someone says,"I like your shoes." What do you say? Clearly you would say,"Thank you." But if someone were trying to take your shoes. You would freak. Think of that as your relationship partner. If other people stare at them or maybe flirt a little. Realize that one, they themselves can make it stop. And two, they are with you. Not them. So clearly you are special. On top of all that, take it as a compliment. You are with someone everyone likes or find attractive. Feel honored that they chose you.

Now there's the bad end in relationships. Let's say you have been on and off with someone for awhile. But you keep breaking up even when you try so hard to keep it together. Welp, you are only fooling yourself. Think of a relationships as a glass cup. If you look at a glass cup, it's perfect. But once you drop it, it shatters. You can pick up the pieces and try to super glue them together but you will still see the cracks all along the cup. That's the same as a relationship. Once it breaks you can't fix it, unless, it wasn't a bad break up. Like if you were moving away, or feelings faded but years down the line the spark came back, Ect. Relationships need to be taken with care and I can promise you there is a way to keep a healthy relationship.

1) Fighting is healthy but maybe once every month or two months. Consisted fighting is just horrible and stressful.

2) Girls. Do NOT assume. Get the straight answer.

3) Don't beat around a bush. Especially with guys most of them won't get the hint.

4) Privacy.

5) Do not be over jealousy. A little jealousy is okay but don't like freak out.

6) Guys. Not everything is okay even if we say it is.

7) Never. I repeat. Never cheat.

8) Never. I repeat. Never lie.

and lastly

9) Trust. A great relationship is pretty much your best friend just with the title. You have to trust each other with everything. If your partner is your girlfriend/boyfriend and your best friend. It just works out better. But then again that's my opinion.

I want you all to know, things will get better and if you are unnoticed now, I promise you, you will get notice. For who you are and not what you try to be. Hold your head up and strong. You are going to go far kid.

[Collette 135]

Thank you so much for this post. There's so much truth in this post that it's mind-blowing! I especially have to agree with the first paragraph though. All the magazines with the glamor girls and the models, it sets such an unrealistic standard of beauty to the world that honestly it should be illegal. It doesn't help that a person is their worst critic. I do this a lot too, but people will look at themselves in the mirror, and they'll single out a part of their face that they don't like. Say they don't think their nose is perfect, when they single it out of their face, they focus in on it, and when they focus hard on it, they notice how it doesn't look right. That's because they don't look at the whole picture, they don't notice their whole face or their whole body. It's a really brutal cycle.

[MyraSweets 33]

Well..women just wanna always be perfect and sometimes I don't blame them but some girls go completely over board..I mean I just go out looking like a hobo and not really caring when some other girl way younger than me come out like so damn slut..like seriously you show all goodies to a laundry mat??

[WasteOfMind 114]

Props to you for writing all that out, especially if you did it in one sitting. But I have a feeling you wrote it for school or something?

[Painted_Whore♥~ 93]

Props to you for writing all that out, especially if you did it in one sitting. But I have a feeling you wrote it for school or something?

No actually I did that in one sitting xD And it wasn't for school.

That was actually me ranting.

[April Boo 2]

Wow. That was amazing Lizzie. Just absolutely amazing. And in one sitting? Daaaamn.

[EvilActivity 74]

This would have appealed to me if there was at least one thing that covered being employed to keep a mans interest.... 

[Shypanda 10]

Amen.

[music=happiness 1]

I trully admire the wisdom u posess lol the first one is especially true...I see all these other guys at school drooling over girls that are so skinney u can see there ribs thru their shirts and that's really ignorant if u ask me. I mean why would u want a girl who looks like she's on crack or something foreal I mean my friends mess with me cuz ill drool over a girl with curves and a big butt (I love girls with big butts..she could have c cups as far as boobs but if she's got a nice round n plump ass then I'm droolin lol)and they'll be like why do u like fat girls when she weighs 140..160 at the most and as far as make up gos I don't care for girls that wear a lot of makeup I mean a little is alright but not to the extent that some girls wear natural beauty is so much more attractive than fake beauty

[hi-c 158]

i love you lizX3

[Black Frost 0]

The media is disgraceful in the way they make girls in particular feel insecure about their looks. It will only get worse as the techo age moves forward and kids are told everywhere how best too look.

[XxivyxX 7]

I used to have an eating disorder back when I was in eight grade, I just kept looking at all these models in magazines and I kept thinking to myself that they r so perfect. But I soon learned that these "perfect" women use a shitload of makeup and practically violate photoshop. I eventually went into treatment and started eating healthy, exercising and drinking lots of water, and guess what.... I feel and look great now. I find it so messed up how the media use pretty thin women as an image for "perfect"

 

And I will also post a pic sometime of me all natural. With my flaws and all. I learned to embrace my imperfections. <3

[❧Ắṅṅα Aṃṇεṡiα☢ 3]

This. Is amazing. I mean. I used to hate the way i looked and stuff, And most people made it worse at school. I'm pretty sure everyone has been bullied once before in their lifetime. But when you have someone out there who notices you not for your beauty but for your personality, it makes all the frustration of trying to look beautiful go away. I don't try anymore ^-^ we don't need makeup. We don't need it. Imperfection to me is true beauty c: and i definetly give you a thumbs up Lizzie c:

[Painted_Whore♥~ 93]

Thanks you guys. Honestly, we should just embrace who we are and turn over those magazines with those unrealistic looking girls as the cover

[Crankor 32]

my only objection is the fighting part. Wouldn't really say it's healthy but can be beneficial. It certainly is common to have arguments. People usually fight in a relationship due to lack of or miscommunication and once in a great while, lack of trust. Even then it would only be "healthy" or beneficial if it can be resolved without making matters worse. So Fighting itself isn't really, but the after effects once it is resolved to both persons liking.

[yeswaitno 48]

Now there's the bad end in relationships. Let's say you have been on and off with someone for awhile. But you keep breaking up even when you try so hard to keep it together. Welp, you are only fooling yourself. Think of a relationships as a glass cup. If you look at a glass cup, it's perfect. But once you drop it, it shatters. You can pick up the pieces and try to super glue them together but you will still see the cracks all along the cup. That's the same as a relationship. Once it breaks you can't fix it, unless, it wasn't a bad break up.

Nice simile. That described my current relationship perfectly.

I guess the glass was dropped when he called off the wedding. -.-

Anyway, thank you. Believe it or not, you helped me sort out a conflict just now.

[Painted_Whore♥~ 93]

Nice simile. That described my current relationship perfectly.

I guess the glass was dropped when he called off the wedding. -.-

Anyway, thank you. Believe it or not, you helped me sort out a conflict just now.

oh wow.. well I'm glad to help c:

[Apollo 15]

I = Blown Away

Edited June 12, 2014 by Brick

[Otaku emo 0]

Ok I really like this .... Um thing writing it is very beautiful but I'm here for a question are there any real emos here I have questionsss

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[lukekuhr 0]

Very well said. I am not to fond of make up on girls it takes away from what they really look like. Unless if it is light black eyeliner but that's about it and I don't think have a girlfriend (I don't have one) that is all bones is healthy either.