Self Pitty!

[Storm]

This thread is to discuss the whole self pitty thing...

There is only about three people that have the same foundation as us i suppose you could say. Meaning that everyone considers them emo as well and one of them always wallows in himself... It isn't just occasionally it is all the time and he's in all my classes..... I've tried comforting him and everything but it only makes him share the details of his life more and he is consantly next to me.... I don't want to be mean to him but his constant presence around me is causing problems with me and my boy friend and I'm afraid that if I tell him to go away and leave me alone which isn't what I want only outside of class that he will go home and try to commit suicide again.

 

 

I don't want to have the knowledge that what I said was the cause of him making more cuts on his wrists I don't know what to do and I don't' know what to say to him. I've told him that him constantly being around me is causing problems but he just makes me feel guilty by telling me he has no one and that I'm his only friend wallowing in self pitty pretty much except it's every single day and I just don't know what to do so a little advice would be very nice

[Silent]

Well keeping a friend and avoiding the problem with the boyfriend kinda sounds tough , all though your boyfriend should understand that even that you are in relationship doesn't mean you can't have guys as friends.

 

And don't be a friend of this boy just cause of pitty.Try and help him to get social with other ppl.Don't drag him away , thats just , not right.

[starchitect]

Um . It sounds like this kid is trouble, honestly .

I think it's selfish that he's not leaving you alone even though you told him it was a bad idea for you to talk to him .

Using guilt is manipulative and wrong - it happens to me all the time and I know that it can make a person feel pretty shitty .

Imo, if this guy is wallowing in self-pity all the time, that's selfish too . He should get over himself and live .

And let your boyfriend know that having a guy friend is fucking okay . It's nice that he's dedicated to you or whatever but I mean, geez.

[EvilActivity]

Sounds like you got yourself stuck in a rut with an empath. An 'emotional black hole' He will wallow and wallow in his insecurities and suck from your compassion and emotions but he will always remain empty and never distribute any thing back to you. Nothing you do or say will be used to his benifit. He is a parasite, This isn't friendship, just a onesided symbyosis. your time and emotions are being wasted. Sure you feel for the guy but your the real victim you are the one suffering here. Your getting the life source sucked out of you but it goes no where. It's a waste. If he applied it and restores himself that would be great but thats not whats happening here is it?

[Storm]

Evil for some reason when I read your post I pictured a big slimmy worm lolz

 

I'm not dragging him down I don't think and I've introduced him to everyone I talk to in this school he doesn't talk to anyone but me and it makes me feel like I have his life just as much as mine in my hands. I can't deal with that because it's hard enough keeping myself alive let alone having to worry about two hearts to insure keep beating.

 

My boy friend lets me have guy friends it's just this one he don't like.

 

And he can't really feed off of something I have to force myself to have can he. I don't take depression medication but I have problems feeling and sometimes it can make me come off heartless. My boy friend gets this but he doesn't so he cries until I tell him I'm sorry and then I do have an actual emotion I always feel bad because I know I come off heartless to him and everyone else....

[starchitect]

FJDISOFADJFIOEFA . This guy is a leech, seriously

You're not dragging him down, it's the other way around .

He's making you feel responsible for him, when really he should know how to take care of himself .

If he pities himself so much, then why doesn't he freaking do something about it .

If you're showing him around to all the people you talk to, he could talk to them if he wanted to feel better

But no, because he thinks he's in some big hole that he can't get out of .

Tell him that if he wants to be unhappy, it's his choice . People will talk to him if he talks to them . But if he just sits around all day crying because his life is so damn hard even though there's a way out then things around going to get better .